a word for the outcast

In case you didn’t know, I’m in law school. I currently work at a great firm in the areas of business law, tech and IP law and general transaction work. Recently my lead attorney and I went to an event celebrating an incredible tech space here in Chicago. I have this irrational fear of being dressed inappropriately so I called ahead to get the scoop on the attire. Semi formal?! Okay got it. So I grab a dress and a fancy necklace and head out. Turns out not everyone got the memo.


I arrive to people wearing jeans. JEANS. I’m in full cocktail attire and people have on sneakers. I panic. I run to an event attendant and ask them if I’m over dressed?! “You’ll stand out she said” stand out?? Lady that is not why I’m here. I’m already YOUNG. I’m already a girl and I’m already black. I stand out enough. (This industry isn’t exactly known for being an female or minority led.) So I go to another event person and ask her because lady number one was ZERO help. Her response… “Don’t worry you’ll stand out”…


PALM TO FACE. I run to the bathroom and look in the mirror. I look nice. Professional. Womanly, dare I say. I look like a BOSS. Why am I so stressed??? Why do I want to blend in so badly?! Why am I squirming in this dress and fretting over my hair and wanting to just hide in the bathroom??


Deep breaths.
Deep breaths.
Deep breaths.


This cheesy middle school quote came to mind “why are you trying to fit in when you’re born to stand out.”


That can’t be God. That’s a quote from like Bring it On or something. I hear it again.


Why are you trying to fit in when you’re born to stand out. 


Stand. Out.


You know what the Bible version of stand out is?


Set apart.


My initial reaction to that is so I’m supposed to be lonely? Ostracized? An outcast?…


Well…. we aren’t exactly called to blend in with this world. We are not of this world friend. Our very own savior was often lonely, ostracized and definitely an outcast. We have something the rest of the world doesn’t have. So how can we expect to fit in? Blend in? Resemble things? We have the mind of Christ. We have Jesus blood in our veins. Our light, the light he gave us, is what Changes others. We don’t get to be the same as everyone else because we AREN’T.


You are set apart. For His purpose and His glory. This is our truth. So we can fight it all we want but when we gave our lives to Christ we committed to potentially being lonely, ostracized and an outcast. We committed to suffering for the name of Jesus no matter what it cost. We chose a life of immense joy but also one that is often uncomfortable.


So next time you find your self pulling a wallflower move, hiding in a bathroom (guilty) or even hating yourself for feeling so out of place remember you were MADE for another world. You are chosen by Christ. You’ve been called to do great things. And that often means not being anything close to comfortable. Embrace it.


But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. – 1 Peter 2:9


with love,



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